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10 Marathon Lessons

March 9, 2010
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So my marathon was Sunday. Great experience. I need to sit down and journal the experience. For now, I have 10 marathon lessons that I learned…

  1. Repect the marathon. There is a huge difference between 20 miles and 26.2 miles. The typical marathon training schedule peaks at 20 miles, and that led me to conclude that there is something magical about hitting 20 and you’d reach this stage of auto-pilot for the final 10k. False. Respect the distance. 26.2 is a bear up until the finish line.
  2. The marathon experience is unparalleled by any other race experience. Now, I can’t at all claim to be a road race expert, but I have run a variety of events. I’ve run muddy offroad races and packed 10ks. But, the marathon experience is unlike anything you’ll experience in a road race…the perks…the medals…the pacers…it’s worth running a marathon (or a half) just for that reason.
  3. Walking is permitted in marathoning. I’ve always been a bit of a running purist, believing that when it comes to road races, walking is quitting. I’ll admit, I walked during my marathon. I walked a good bit over the final leg of my race…and my time was a respectable 4:14. When it comes to a marathon, it doesn’t matter if you crawl across the finish line, it is an accomplishment and something to be proud of. Now, I’m not getting carried away, I refuse to walk next time.
  4. You’ll see Jesus around mile 16. At least in the Little Rock marathon. In Boston, it’s probably about three fourths of the way up Heartbreak Hill.
  5. You need to do everything in your power to stay calm and relaxed the first couple of miles. My 10k split was 48:20. My half-marathon split was about 1:47. That means that I ran 8 minute miles for the first half of my marathon. That was way too fast. The sad thing is that I knew I was running too fast and I didn’t care. It got caught up in the moment…the crowd…the band…the adrenaline. I paid the price when I bonked around mile 19.
  6. Plan beforehand how you’ll handle food on the course. Everyone tells you to figure out chews and gels and sports drinks, but what do you do with the orange slices and bananas that start appearing at the hydration stops on the back-half of the race? I wasn’t expecting this, and when the cramps came, I found myself wishing I had scarfed down the first banana I saw.
  7. The mental battle is as much about how much you have left to run as it is how you’re currently feeling. It’s interesting, when I finally lost the mental battle and starting walking, it wasn’t because I absolutely couldn’t run any further. It was because I was afraid of how much I had left. grrr.
  8. Wear your name. One fun thing about a marathon is that many allow you to personalize your running bib. So my first name was printed right above my race number. Spectators catch on quickly and get a kick out of yelling your name as you run by. That, my friend, will put a smile on your face precisely when you need it.
  9. Know the course. Participation in the Little Rock Marathon training group enabled me to run a lot of the marathon course during my training. That was way more helpful than I thought it would be. From now on, I will do what I can to have prior experience running a race course beforehand.
  10. Don’t taper too much. My training got thrown off a bit when a pretty bad coughing fit hit me about a month ago…right in the midst of my peak training. This caused me to miss some key runs. As the race day approached, I was scared to overtrain. I definitely felt the negative effects on race day of not having run a major long run in four weeks. That was a mistake. Here is a great article addressing how to taper well.

My lessons are learned. I’ll be ready for the 2011 Mardi Gras Marathon!


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the marathon is here

March 3, 2010
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It’s finally here.

The Little Rock Marathon is Sunday.

I’m stoked.

I ran Cross Country in high school, in more recent spurts here and there, but honestly haven’t run consistently since my Freshman year of college [1995].

So in January of last year, knowing I was about to launch into church planting and be in Little Rock for 10 months, I decided NOW was the time.

Now is the time to run a marathon.

It’s funny. We have these “bucket lists,” right? We say things like, “man, wouldn’t it be cool to do _________? I need to do that sometime. That would be awesome.”

Mostly we say it to ourselves. It’s like we are scared to even say it out loud because we know that we’ll never do it.

What is stopping us?

26 miles just sounds impossible.

How about 1 mile…tomorrow?

As I reflect back over the past 14 months or so, it’s really hasn’t been as difficult as I thought it would be to get here. It’s sounds so cliche, but it’s really just a matter of running one mile at a time.

The lives we live…is this the way it’s supposed to be?

I read through that ancient story that opens the pages of Genesis. The universe is a blank canvas and God creatively fills it…stars…planets…sun…moon..oceans…plants…animals.

Then he creates us…in his image.

We were given all of that…and this is how we live?

So go run a mile today. It won’t be long before your running marathons.

But don’t stop there.

Oh, I got one more on my list. I’ll say this one out loud.

Man, wouldn’t it be cool to transform a city? We need to do that sometime. That would be awesome.

Tomorrow we can start by planting a church.


self awareness

March 2, 2010
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One of the subjects that our coaches here at Fellowship Associates have drilled into us is the idea of “self-awareness.”

A team cannot operate effectively unless each of it’s members are self-aware. Self-awareness means that you know your strengths and weaknesses and you aren’t insecure about them.

That is easier said than done.

A great tool to help each of us along the journey towards self-awareness is the book Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero.

Scazzero includes this helpful self-awareness scale

0……………….25……………….50……………….75……………….100

0-25

  • Can’t distinguish between fact and feeling
  • Emotionally needy and highly reactive to others
  • Much of life energy spent in winning the approval of others
  • Little energy for goal-directed activities
  • Can’t say, “I think…I believe…”
  • Little emotional separation from families
  • Dependent marital relationships
  • Do very poorly in transitions, crises, and life adjustments
  • Unable to see where they end and others begin

25-50

  • Some ability to distinguish between fact and feeling
  • Most of self is a “false self” and reflected from others
  • When anxiety is low, they function relatively well
  • Quick to imitate others and change themselves to gain acceptance from others
  • Often talk one set of principles/beliefs, yet do another
  • Self-esteem soars with compliments or is crushed by criticism
  • Become anxious (i.e. highly reactive and “freaking out”) when a relationship system falls apart or becomes unbalanced
  • Often make poor decisions due to their inability to think clearly under stress
  • Seek power, honor, knowledge, and love from others to clothe their false selves

50-75

  • Aware of the thinking and feeling functions that work as a team
  • Reasonable level of “true self”
  • Can follow life goals that are determined from within
  • Can state beliefs calmly without putting others down
  • Marriage is a functioning partnership where intimacy can be enjoyed without losing the self
  • Can allow children to progress through developmental phases into adult autonomy
  • Function well–alone or with others
  • Able to cope with crises without falling apart
  • Stay in relational connection with others without insisting they see the world the same

75-100 (Few people function at this level)

  • Is principle oriented and goal directed–secure in who they are, unaffected by criticism or praise
  • Is able to leave family of origins and become an inner-directed, separate adult
  • Sure of their beliefs but not dogmatic or closed in their thinking
  • Can hear and evaluate beliefs of others, discarding old beliefs in favor of new ones
  • Can listen without reacting and communicate without antagonizing others
  • Can respect others without having to change them
  • Aware of dependence on others and responsibility for others
  • Free to enjoy life and play
  • Able to maintain a non-anxious presence in the midst of stress and pressure
  • Able to take responsibility for their own destiny and life.

So…where do you think you fall on this scale?

Remember, the opposite of self-awareness would be self-deception…so it would be easy to read over this list and not be honest with yourself about where you really are…


seasonal running or lack thereof

December 4, 2009
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So yesterday morning I was running on the trail by our apartment here in Little Rock. It was cold. It’s dipped below freezing for the first time this season. That is cold for a New Orleanian. I was thankful to be bundled up [beanie hat, gloves, arm warmers, layers, etc]. Nonetheless, I was just not feeling it.

It has been interesting to note how the weather affects my psyche. It is becoming increasingly harder and harder to get out of bed at 6am to hit the trail. You can imagine the cold before you even walk out the door. In fact, you can imagine it before you get out from under the covers.

To make matters worse, it feels like I have nothing to train for right now. We are past all of the Fall road races that I wanted to run and the Spring is months away.

I read an article in Runner’s World a couple of weeks ago on running only to maintain your fitness level. It feels like that I what I am doing right now. I am trying to run the minimal amount necessary to not loose ground. Progress is optional. This article seems to think that is a good objective through the colder months.

So that leads me to my musings during my run yesterday. I pondered, “Is it a good idea to make your goal simply to maintain fitness?” Is it even possible? It feels a bit like I’m spinning my wheels and beginning to slip backwards.

This isn’t really a discussion about running, it’s about life. In every area, we reach seasons where we are tired of pressing on and begin to believe the lie that we can just tread water.

Then we begin sinking.

Tebow’s eyeblack verse of the week [lol] was Heb 12.1-2:

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

That speaks to a lot of life, doesn’t it?


relational learning

October 20, 2009
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Yesterday on the plane I read another chapter in Practicing Greatness by Reggie McNeal on self-development. He describes what he called “intentional learning networks” as the venue for all of us continue to develop and learn.

The residency program would fall under this category of “learning networks” as opposed to the more traditional classroom environment.

Here is a snippet of the chapter that intrigued me:

Another factor pushing the development of the learning community is the ascendancy of relational learning in the postmodern world. Intriguingly, this development actually goes back to the way education was done in the premodern world, when teachers and pupils were much more closely bound together in a learning relationship. The mass standardization of the modern era (courtesy of the advent of the printing press) shifted the emphasis in education to curriculum, with didactic instruction that supplemented textbooks. The teacher became central as the disseminator of information, the expert passing on knowledge to those who did not have it. In relational learning the learners help to drive the process by framing the learning agenda (based on the learner’s challenges) and by taking responsibility for learning outcomes. The relationship between mentor and learner sets the ‘load limit’ of information that can be exchanged and the speed limit of how fast knowledge can be developed. If significant trust and authenticity characterizes the relationship, then a broad range of issues can be more easily addressed and at a quicker pace.”

I think this is huge for the way we do church. How does this affect what it means to develop someone as a leader in the church? How does this affect the way we view the discipleship process of every Christian? Good stuff to ponder.


our day with Fitz

September 16, 2009
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Whew. It has been quite a week. The Fellowship Associates Residency program has dunked us into some pretty exciting waters the last couple of days. I have hardly had a chance to catch my breath. Now that things are beginning to settle down [at least for 24 hours before Crystal and I leave for New Orleans on Thursday evening], I’m sitting in a Starbucks reflecting on what I want to share with you about the last couple of days. I could easily fill a couple of posts with stories and reflections.

I think that all five residents would hands down agree that one of our most exciting and inspiring meetings of the whole program so far occurred on Monday when we met with Fitz Hill.

fitz_hillFitz Hill is currently the president of Arkansas Baptist College. ABC is a small  historically black college here in Little Rock. It was founded back in the 1880s by former slaves. It is infused into an old neighborhood that reminds me a lot of the Ninth Ward [pre-Katrina]. It seems that this was the area where the first black homeowners bought their homes back in the day. Over the years, it has become overwhelmed by blight, poverty and crime.

Fitz tackled the job of President in 2006. While he has a doctorate in education, his background is primarily in coaching. Fitz was the Assistant Head Coach at Arkansas and the Head Coach at San Jose State. At the time, he was one of only five African-American division I football coaches in the nation. [One funny tidbit...when he found out I was from NOLA, he asked me where I went to high school to see if he ever recruited there. I said, "No, I'm pretty sure you never recruited at Ben Franklin." lol.]

We sat down with Fitz in the president’s board room for our meeting before grabbing lunch with him in the school cafeteria and ending with a tour of the school campus. Fitz pumped us all up with his vision that was literally being built before our eyes.

When Fitz took over in 2006 [that's three years ago], the school had about 150 students and was on the verge of shutting it’s doors. Today, it has 900 students and about 10 million dollars of ongoing construction projects to make it a state of the art school. They have purchased/acquired probably close to a dozen of the blighted properties in the neighborhood and they are turning them into dorms, offices, small businesses [run by students], GED/tutoring centers, parks, etc. They are literally transforming their entire community.

The craziest part…when we walked into the cafeteria…I literally didn’t see one female student. I almost choked on my lunch when Fitz told us that of their 900 students about 600-700 are males. Steve Snider [one of our FA mentors, who is a lifelong friend of Fitz's] later told us that when Fitz goes through the drive-thru at McDonald’s, he’ll ask the young male at the counter if he has ever thought about college and then precede to “recruit” him. Fitz told us that he travels around the regional area [rural Arkansas, northern Louisiana, etc.] and recruits black males with 15s, 16s on their ACT to go to his school. He pursues them like a college football coach would pursue a blue-chip athlete.

No one does that. No one.

In fact, I’m willing to bet that a majority of college presidents would admit off the record that they would be happy if those guys never set foot on their college campuses.

He challenged us to think long and hard about what role we can play in fighting that battle alongside of him. By we, I mean white, middle-class Christians [four of the five church planting residents are white]. He challenged us to think long and hard about tokenism [half-heartedly pursuing diversity]. He decried multi-culturalism as an inadequate solution that could potentially distract the exact group of people that have the most potential to help the cause. His words reminded me a bit of Steve Biko, the South African thinker/activist during the Apartheid era.

It was [literally] awesome.

So I find myself asking the question…what kind of role can I play? I will be [am already?] a church leader in New Orleans. We seek to become a church that reflects the makeup of our city. We seek to become a church that tackles crime and poverty directly.

The question I must ask myself is, “why?”

Why do I want that? Is it so my white middle-class conscience can go to bed feeling content? Further, “What am I willing to give up?”

Are we willing to hand-off ministry and opportunities to others when necessary? Are we more concerned about getting glory or making an lasting impact?

Are we Kingdom-minded or are we only desiring to build our own kingdom?

I’m very happy to say that Fitz is on our schedule a number of times over the residency program. I can’t wait to hear more.


Vision Sunday

August 31, 2009
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Yesterday was Vision Sunday at Fellowship Bible Church. It was so encouraging to hear what God has been doing here in central Arkansas and to hear a group of leaders challenge their body to step up and truly make an impact for the Kingdom.

Here is a link to the audio/video of the message. If you are willing to sit and watch the whole thing, trust me, it will be worth it. Be sure to see the ending to see team leadership in action.

As the service was ending, I fought back tears. I think it was a combination of things. Team leadership at times feels like such a pipe dream to me, yet FBCLR has lived it out successfully for decades. I already knew that, but seeing it right in front of my face was huge for me. Combine that with the emotions I already felt this weekend due to Katrina Anniversary and I just lost it.

In so many ways, this service brought to bear what year four of rebuilding is all about, at least for us. It is about turning away from the past and looking to the future. All of our hopes and dreams about New Orleans and the future? Now is the time for them to become reality.

As Lawrence said to me yesterday on the phone, we have been trailblazing through the jungle praying that we’ll reach our destination and FBCLR just picked us up and dropped us off on the highway that they already built that will take us there. All this time we thought that no one had been there before, but Fellowship has. So we can see the future so clearly now.


the biggest mistake in the history of Fellowship Bible Church

August 29, 2009
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It has been interesting to hear more and more about the history of Fellowship Bible Church Little Rock from the perspective of lots of different people involved. Like any organization, they have had their share of successes and failures over the past 30 years.

While there has been tons of variation in the story depending on who you talk to, one observation that all seem to be united about is what was their biggest mistake.

Back in the late 80s, FBCLR had grown into one of the larger churches in Little Rock and was exploring what that meant. They felt an obligation to do something big for the Kingdom in a way that could make a cultural impact on their city.

They decided to pour major reasources into a mass-media campaign they created called “Stand Up for Decency.” They created TV commercials, radio spots, bumper stickers, etc. that were themed around the idea of standing up for family values. The campaign squarely engaged issues like Abortion and Homosexuality. In fact, one of their TV ads one a national award. It sounds like it somehow alluded to the Holocaust and compared it to Abortion in the US.

Then the response came. Mainly in the form of a counter-campaign called “Stand Up for Liberty.” They quickly realized that all their campaign had done was flare up hostility toward them throughout the city they were trying to reach. They became known as that church. The one who was mad and hateful. In fact, when the later changed their tune and began partnering with other churches to do community ministry, some thought they were a cult.

A couple of weeks ago I ran on a Saturday morning with a guy named Bill. We chatted for the last 4 miles of our run about life, culture and religion. Bill is an atheist. Of course, this came out in response to my statement, “I’m a pastor and in the Church Planting residency program at Fellowship Bible Church.” We talked a lot about New Orleans, and it was very clear that Bill valued people, the community and making the world better. He did not have one negative thing to say about Fellowship Bible Church. In fact, his only comment about them was noting that they were heavily involved in ShareFest.

I have to admit, I’m dumbfounded at the shift that has occurred in less than 20 years. Rather than shouting from an isolated island, Fellowship is truly impacting and changing their entire city.

What happened? Instead of chilling on their isolated island, they began building bridges to the mainland and walking across. They stopped shouting about what is wrong with their culture and instead did something about it. They mentored in inner-city schools, they weatherized the homes of the elderly, they painted classrooms, they adopted orphans.

And all of the sudden, they had a voice. They haven’t changed their theology. They still hold the same basic worldview. They just share it in a way where they just might actually get someone to listen. They earn the right to be heard through love.

It’s crazy how much this story parallels that of Katrina in New Orleans. The same about-face has occurred in New Orleans in regards to Evangelical Christianity. Unfortunately, it has by and large been achieved by short-term mission teams rather than long-term missionaries (i.e.- every Christian that lives in New Orleans).

For me, part of planting a church is transforming short-term missionary work into long-term ministry. New Orleans needs churches like Fellowship Bible Church Little Rock that will live out the “mission trip” mentality every day.

We don’t want to create an institution, we want to create a missions outpost. We want to create a church that isn’t known for what happens on Sunday mornings in a building, but what happens the rest of the week throughout the city.

Will you step off of the island with us?

[p.s.- I just found a fairly recent article in the "Arksansas Times" about FBCLR. It references the transformation I described above really well.]


tell me about team

August 19, 2009
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Whew. It’s Wednesday morning and this is my first chance to catch my breath since we started the Residency on Monday. We spent the first two days in back-to-back meetings. It’s been great exploring both Fellowship Associates and Fellowship Bible Church Little Rock over the past two days.

While we have already met with a number of staff members at FBCLR, the most insightful meeting perhaps was with Bill Parkinson, one of the founding pastors of the church. The primary purpose of the meeting was to give us some history of the beginnings of the church and specifically the dynamic of having a team of teaching pastors rather than the traditional single pastor model.

Something magical happens when a group of people band together, unified by a belief that there is another way…and convinced enough to dip their feet in the uncharted waters. Back in 1977, a handful of families began meeting in a home in Little Rock to read a Gene Getz book on church, meditate on the “one another” passages and start a new church.

This experience led to a radical decision early on: to not have a senior pastor. Three guys who knew each other from Campus Crusade [I think at U of Arkansas] agreed to function as a team of co-teaching pastors. Their names were Bill Parkinson, Bill Wellons and Robert Lewis.

Thus began a grand experiment in the tricky science of team. Robert, Bill and Bill and their families were bound together by the common cause of leading a new church and reaching a city. They made decisions together, they carved sermon series into thirds and dreamed collectively. Bill told us one story in particular of when they unexpectedly lost their rented meeting space and were scrambling to find a new location. They settled on the decision to rent out a movie theater on Sunday mornings. How did they come to this decision? Bill Wellons and Robert Lewis took their wives to a movie for a date night and inspiration struck.

Over the course of the first couple of years, they began to settle into roles and notice the subtle nuances that each person brought to the table. Robert was a dreamer, the guy that challenged the congregation to reach for the sky with every sermon he preached. Bill Wellons was the wise sage that members quickly learned to seek for counsel. He would take Robert’s dreams and figure out how to turn them into reality. Bill Parkinson was the shepherd whose words and heart would soothe the soul of their congregation. They learned when to step up and when to back down. They truly trusted each other and didn’t care who got the credit. Of course, these roles weren’t clearly defined. All hands were always on deck and all were ready to play any and every role at a moment’s notice.

Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t always easy. Team never is. Perhaps the reason more churches don’t do it is precisely because it is so difficult. It takes time and patience. Having complementary gifts and passion brings with it periodic clashes and disagreements. I once read one thinker say that when a well-oiled team makes a decision, 100% of the team are only 80% certain [rather than the more typical "team decision" where 80% of the team is 100% certain and the rest are discounted].

Team, though, is something magical. There is a reason why Hollywood has been able to tell the same sports story over and over again. There is a reason why Jerry Jones can spend a billion dollars on a building. Our response to team exposes a nerve somewhere deep in our soul. When synergy develops, we all stand back and notice. We cry, we cheer, we marvel. [Are you ready for some football?]

Which brings me back to those “one another” passages that were spoken aloud by a band of believers in Little Rock back in the 70s. Have we missed it? Is this what Christianity is really supposed to look like? Churches built around personalities? Lone Ranger Christians? Why are 99.9% of churches in America dominated by one man?

Parkinson told us that the two main ingredients in team are: trust and humility. Are you willing to trust others? Am I willing to swallow my pride and not have my way? Is it possible that the way I envision things is inferior to the way we see it? He has lived it out for 30 years. It can be done. And they have changed this city.

p.s.- just found this CT article where Robert Lewis tells a bit of their story…


I’m here

August 8, 2009
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So, I’m here in Little Rock. Specifically it is a Saturday morning and I’m at a Starbuck’s downtown. It has been a long week of unpacking, meeting new friends and navigating all of the hubbub surrounding being in a new home and city. So far, it just feels like we’re on vacation. I don’t technically start the residency for another week, and I”m very thankful for the time off.

A couple of highlights thus far…

-I have met three of the four other FA residents: Ryan Rice (planting in Phoenix), Jay Jacobs (planting in TBD) and Jay O’Brien (planting in Columbus). I have really enjoyed all three and looking forward to meeting Mitchell Moore (planting in here in LR). Ryand and Jay Jacobs both have young kids like us and live in the same complex. Our children have already bonded. the Jacobs’ eldest is 5 like our Sam and will be in the same school for Kindergarten. We went to registration together.

-Little Rock seems to be a really great city. Enjoying the scenery here with tons more green and hills than NOLA. Running here has been a blast thus far. Ryan (he’s a LR native) clued me in on a running path that is like 2 blocks from our house that is AWESOME. This morning I ran with a training group of over 100 people that get together on Saturday mornings to run. I ran 10 miles, pacing behind three runners that apparently ran more than that. It stretched me and I ran a faster pace than normal. Tons of fun.

-Like we did in NOLA, I’m attempting to go OTA (over the antenna  TV…meaning no cable or satellite). I’m finding that this is much trickier than it was in NOLA for two reasons: (1) I live in an apartment instead of a house…meaning I can only use an indoor antenna and (2) the local PBS affiliate here has their antenna located like 20 miles outside of the city. So that means that I can get every channel wonderfully except for PBS (my kids need PBS kids!! I need Nova, Frontline and Jim Lehrer!!). So I posted a message on AVSForum’s thread for the Little Rock area and found lots of locals willing to help. Yesterday I drove to North Little Rock to pickup an antenna that one guy on there was willing to give to me. Greatness. Little things like that just really encourage you when you are in a new city.

-Talked to Lawrence last night and it was the first time I started missing ministry in NOLA. Rob Johnson (my brother-in-law) kinda interned with me on Fridays for the past nine months or so (he’s off work on Friday’s). He is now going to be working with Lawrence on Fridays. Yesterday they prayed over Emily Zilich’s classroom at Karr and had lunch with Spider/Thomas (guy pulled off the streets, has trusted Christ). Excited to see what God will do in NOLA over the next 10 months as the Gentilly church plant team comes together. I am sad I won’t be as directly involved for now, but I fully trust those who are there that are on our team and happy to help them as much as I can remotely.

Well, that is enough for now. I hope to post more frequently now that I’m here in LR. Gotta get home. The kiddos are probably awake…


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Doug Daspit. I love Jesus and New Orleans. I am a church planting resident in Little Rock, and I plan on running the Little Rock Marathon while I'm here. So I'm in the midst of checking two things off of my bucket list: plant a church...run a marathon...

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