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great quote on being ambassadors

March 4, 2010
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Right now our explore core group (those exploring becoming part of our initial core group for the new church) is reading a workbook called Sent: Living the Missional Nature of the Church, by Ed Stetzer.

Here is a great quote from the second chapter on being an ambassador…

I have often wondered why Jesus would choose such a flawed, messed-up group to represent Him to the world. You would think the opposite would be true. After all, in an earthly political system, a king, president, or ruler carefully chooses an ambassador based on character and loyalty. The person in charge would want to make sure any representative would offer an accurate picture of the ruler, acting always in accordance with the ruler’s wishes…

But perhaps part of why Christ chose the church to represent Him is because we are flawed. As messed-up people, we are uniquely equipped to testify to the mercy, grace, and love of God. As we struggle through the same pains, temptations, and hardships as those around us, we have the ability to remind them there is hope and purpose in life.

Right now, we are really grappling with what is looks like to become Ambassadors of Reconciliation to New Orleans. This is what it’s all about…


the marathon is here

March 3, 2010
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It’s finally here.

The Little Rock Marathon is Sunday.

I’m stoked.

I ran Cross Country in high school, in more recent spurts here and there, but honestly haven’t run consistently since my Freshman year of college [1995].

So in January of last year, knowing I was about to launch into church planting and be in Little Rock for 10 months, I decided NOW was the time.

Now is the time to run a marathon.

It’s funny. We have these “bucket lists,” right? We say things like, “man, wouldn’t it be cool to do _________? I need to do that sometime. That would be awesome.”

Mostly we say it to ourselves. It’s like we are scared to even say it out loud because we know that we’ll never do it.

What is stopping us?

26 miles just sounds impossible.

How about 1 mile…tomorrow?

As I reflect back over the past 14 months or so, it’s really hasn’t been as difficult as I thought it would be to get here. It’s sounds so cliche, but it’s really just a matter of running one mile at a time.

The lives we live…is this the way it’s supposed to be?

I read through that ancient story that opens the pages of Genesis. The universe is a blank canvas and God creatively fills it…stars…planets…sun…moon..oceans…plants…animals.

Then he creates us…in his image.

We were given all of that…and this is how we live?

So go run a mile today. It won’t be long before your running marathons.

But don’t stop there.

Oh, I got one more on my list. I’ll say this one out loud.

Man, wouldn’t it be cool to transform a city? We need to do that sometime. That would be awesome.

Tomorrow we can start by planting a church.


self awareness

March 2, 2010
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One of the subjects that our coaches here at Fellowship Associates have drilled into us is the idea of “self-awareness.”

A team cannot operate effectively unless each of it’s members are self-aware. Self-awareness means that you know your strengths and weaknesses and you aren’t insecure about them.

That is easier said than done.

A great tool to help each of us along the journey towards self-awareness is the book Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero.

Scazzero includes this helpful self-awareness scale

0……………….25……………….50……………….75……………….100

0-25

  • Can’t distinguish between fact and feeling
  • Emotionally needy and highly reactive to others
  • Much of life energy spent in winning the approval of others
  • Little energy for goal-directed activities
  • Can’t say, “I think…I believe…”
  • Little emotional separation from families
  • Dependent marital relationships
  • Do very poorly in transitions, crises, and life adjustments
  • Unable to see where they end and others begin

25-50

  • Some ability to distinguish between fact and feeling
  • Most of self is a “false self” and reflected from others
  • When anxiety is low, they function relatively well
  • Quick to imitate others and change themselves to gain acceptance from others
  • Often talk one set of principles/beliefs, yet do another
  • Self-esteem soars with compliments or is crushed by criticism
  • Become anxious (i.e. highly reactive and “freaking out”) when a relationship system falls apart or becomes unbalanced
  • Often make poor decisions due to their inability to think clearly under stress
  • Seek power, honor, knowledge, and love from others to clothe their false selves

50-75

  • Aware of the thinking and feeling functions that work as a team
  • Reasonable level of “true self”
  • Can follow life goals that are determined from within
  • Can state beliefs calmly without putting others down
  • Marriage is a functioning partnership where intimacy can be enjoyed without losing the self
  • Can allow children to progress through developmental phases into adult autonomy
  • Function well–alone or with others
  • Able to cope with crises without falling apart
  • Stay in relational connection with others without insisting they see the world the same

75-100 (Few people function at this level)

  • Is principle oriented and goal directed–secure in who they are, unaffected by criticism or praise
  • Is able to leave family of origins and become an inner-directed, separate adult
  • Sure of their beliefs but not dogmatic or closed in their thinking
  • Can hear and evaluate beliefs of others, discarding old beliefs in favor of new ones
  • Can listen without reacting and communicate without antagonizing others
  • Can respect others without having to change them
  • Aware of dependence on others and responsibility for others
  • Free to enjoy life and play
  • Able to maintain a non-anxious presence in the midst of stress and pressure
  • Able to take responsibility for their own destiny and life.

So…where do you think you fall on this scale?

Remember, the opposite of self-awareness would be self-deception…so it would be easy to read over this list and not be honest with yourself about where you really are…


a morning of hope

January 25, 2010
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This is a morning chock full of emotions for New Orleanians. Many are sipping their coffee in disbelief, still reeling over what they witnessed last night.

The Saints are going to the Super Bowl.

My head hit the pillow pondering what the moment means to our city. I dreamt about it. I work up with it still on my mind, and it was all I could think about while I ran this morning.

It is a surreal moment that is forty-three years in the making. Forty-three or four and a half…depending on how you count.

We’ve had it rough, haven’t we? Decades of losing has seemingly spilled beyond the football field and into our lives.

Our economy and education go down the tubes. Crime and corruption steadily rise. The close-knit bonds that kept our community together slowly unravel as more and more relocate.

And then there was Katrina.

It felt like the final body blow that put us down for the count. Observers from around the country shook their heads and turned to walk away.

But we kept breathing. We shook the stars out of our head and staggered to our feet. We refused to give in.

For many of us, this feels like a morning of triumph. We have finally achieved the victory that has eluded us all these years.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the cold, hard truth is that we can’t relax, we must keep swinging.

Reality is less like the trophy ceremony and more like the tie score at halftime.

I feel less like Sharper holding up the trophy and more like Reggie right after the fumble. “It ain’t over. I think I still got another TD in my bones.”

We have been winning some battles lately, but the war isn’t over.

So as I reflect on things this morning, I believe that this is a morning of hope. We have faith. We see the future that can be ours. It is within our grasp.

If the Saints can actually make it to the Super Bowl [admit it, you didn't think it was really possible, did you?], then our city can be transformed.

The question is, are we willing to work for it?

The reason we are planting a church in New Orleans is because we believe that she can be restored one neighborhood at a time.

We’ve seen the power of the church unleashed upon our city, haven’t we? Wave after wave of churches have come into our town and lovingly helped us rebuild.

The next wave will be New Orleanians banding together and fighting together, becoming Jesus’ Hands as He rebuilds our lives, our souls and our city.

That’s really what the church is supposed to be, right? It’s a team. A rally. A brotherhood. It is the Kingdom on Earth as it is in heaven. It’s light in a dark world. It is love in the midst of hate. It is hope in the midst of tragedy.

New Orleans needs more than a new mayor. It needs a new movement of God.

We believe.

Are you with us?


seasonal running or lack thereof

December 4, 2009
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So yesterday morning I was running on the trail by our apartment here in Little Rock. It was cold. It’s dipped below freezing for the first time this season. That is cold for a New Orleanian. I was thankful to be bundled up [beanie hat, gloves, arm warmers, layers, etc]. Nonetheless, I was just not feeling it.

It has been interesting to note how the weather affects my psyche. It is becoming increasingly harder and harder to get out of bed at 6am to hit the trail. You can imagine the cold before you even walk out the door. In fact, you can imagine it before you get out from under the covers.

To make matters worse, it feels like I have nothing to train for right now. We are past all of the Fall road races that I wanted to run and the Spring is months away.

I read an article in Runner’s World a couple of weeks ago on running only to maintain your fitness level. It feels like that I what I am doing right now. I am trying to run the minimal amount necessary to not loose ground. Progress is optional. This article seems to think that is a good objective through the colder months.

So that leads me to my musings during my run yesterday. I pondered, “Is it a good idea to make your goal simply to maintain fitness?” Is it even possible? It feels a bit like I’m spinning my wheels and beginning to slip backwards.

This isn’t really a discussion about running, it’s about life. In every area, we reach seasons where we are tired of pressing on and begin to believe the lie that we can just tread water.

Then we begin sinking.

Tebow’s eyeblack verse of the week [lol] was Heb 12.1-2:

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

That speaks to a lot of life, doesn’t it?


Amish Buggies, Phillies Tickets & Forgotten Beauty

October 21, 2009
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Beauty is a curious thing. Something inside of us insatiably craves things that are beautiful. When we find them we capture them and hang them up on a wall in our houses. But once we finally have beauty in our grasp, it slowly leaks through our fingers. We can’t hold onto it. We find ourselves rushing past it ten times a day without even a fleeting glance. The beauty that initially captivated us becomes common.

And then we have guests over for dinner.

Our friends come over and enjoy the pot roast and the conversation and they marvel at the beauty hanging above the mantle. They stare at it and they oh and ah. They ask, “how in the world did you find this?”

We just smile while beauty comes flooding back and overtakes us once again.

Lawrence and Alf were my dinner guests this weekend in Pennsylvania. We spent four days exploring Philly and Lancaster County, reminiscing with old friends, and eating.

First of all, we met with individuals or groups from five churches (Pike Creek Bible Church, New Hope Community Church, Christian Fellowship Church, Calvary Church, Grace Fellowship Church) and two universities (PBU and Eastern). All sent mission teams down to New Orleans after Katrina.

Spending time with old friends was life giving. It was so thrilling to be reminded of the stories of lives around the country impacted by “the Katrina experience.” We probably have underestimated the number of people whose lives were redirected by a week down in New Orleans.

Maybe now more than ever, we need to be reminded of those stories. We need to know the faces that they remember helping so that we can return to those rebuilt homes and continue the story. We need to beckon them to come back down and maybe knock on those doors with us.

in the Wal-Mart parking lot

Walmart Parking Lot

Secondly, we team preached at Grace Fellowship Church on Sunday morning. Frankly, it is a ton of work to team teach through a sermon, but it is also a ton of fun. We learned a lot about each other and about team. Once we start the new church, I think that it will definitely be worth our time to preach together like this every once in a while. But on a regular Sunday, we’ll just rotate who preaches each week.
Finally, Alf and Lawrence got a chance to experience Crystal’s roots. We spent a majority of our time in Lancaster County and stayed with my in-laws. We chased Amish buggies into the Walmart parking lot [yes, they shop there], ate at a small town firehouse turkey dinner fundraiser and went to a Phillies game.

got tickets outside the stadium about an hour before the game for face value. Jesus provides. lol.

got tickets outside the stadium about an hour before the game for face value. Jesus provides. lol.

It was bittersweet to be around all of Crystal’s family and home culture without her, but in a way it was really good and healthy for me. I got a chance to see things through Alf and Lawrence’s fresh eyes.
I love my wife. I love all that makes her who she is. Perhaps part of it is how different her roots are than mine. I know that God has fused our
backgrounds together intentionally.

So a lot of things came together for me this weekend. Team…family…Katrina…calling…

It’s a beautiful thing.


relational learning

October 20, 2009
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Yesterday on the plane I read another chapter in Practicing Greatness by Reggie McNeal on self-development. He describes what he called “intentional learning networks” as the venue for all of us continue to develop and learn.

The residency program would fall under this category of “learning networks” as opposed to the more traditional classroom environment.

Here is a snippet of the chapter that intrigued me:

Another factor pushing the development of the learning community is the ascendancy of relational learning in the postmodern world. Intriguingly, this development actually goes back to the way education was done in the premodern world, when teachers and pupils were much more closely bound together in a learning relationship. The mass standardization of the modern era (courtesy of the advent of the printing press) shifted the emphasis in education to curriculum, with didactic instruction that supplemented textbooks. The teacher became central as the disseminator of information, the expert passing on knowledge to those who did not have it. In relational learning the learners help to drive the process by framing the learning agenda (based on the learner’s challenges) and by taking responsibility for learning outcomes. The relationship between mentor and learner sets the ‘load limit’ of information that can be exchanged and the speed limit of how fast knowledge can be developed. If significant trust and authenticity characterizes the relationship, then a broad range of issues can be more easily addressed and at a quicker pace.”

I think this is huge for the way we do church. How does this affect what it means to develop someone as a leader in the church? How does this affect the way we view the discipleship process of every Christian? Good stuff to ponder.


Chase Oaks Trip

October 10, 2009
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So I’m down in bayou country for the weekend. I just finished a 10 mile race [Middendorf's Manchac Race. Ran a 1:18:07] and just showered up at my Mom’s house in Algiers.

Boy, has it been a good weekend. I wanted to take a couple of minutes and fill you in on what’s going on.

There is a group of 21 people from Chase Oaks Church in Plano down. This is their…I don’t know…seventh or eight Katrina mission trip. Lots of familiar faces and old friends.

But this trip is different. The energy and excitement is palpable.

Chase Oaks sees it.

This crazy idea to plant a church and turn short-term mission work into long-term church work is something that they understand and they are ready and willing to fight for it.

Over the past couple of months, we have been humbled as we have watched this church pick us up and carry us on their broad shoulders. Yes, they are supporting us financially, we are thankful for that, but they refuse to merely mail a check. They are spilling their blood in this city.

Over the past couple of days, they have been divided into three teams…

The first team has been at Alf’s House. They have caulked and painted the exterior, installed the hardwood floor and basically put all of the finishing touches on 4910 Arts St. They will help to move-in the Nelson family today. Mike Martin [one of the team members] said last night in our meeting that he is a little dumbfounded with how much work they completed in 48 hours. He said, “I don’t know. It just flowed.”

What I see is a group of people that understand the sacrifice that Alf and Aly have made to return to New Orleans. They are thrilled to play a crucial role in getting the Nelsons into their house and empowering them to focus their attention on entrenching themselves into the Gentilly community. That passion is fueling some serious sweat power.

The second team has focused on helping one of our partners: Crossroads Missions. In fact, Chase Oaks is the reason we are partnered with Crossroads [one of the staff, a guy named Bruce, is related to a Chase Oaks member]. Crossroads has focused them on helping at St. Roch Community Church. [If you recall, I blogged a couple of months back about St. Roch.] The team has focused on preparing St. Roch’s church facility for today’s visit with some key partners from Florida [in town for some football game].

What I see is a group of people who are strengthening some relationships that are important to us as a church plant. We absolutely love what both Crossroads and St. Roch are doing in the city! We want to support and partner with both as much as we can.

The final team as been doing street ministry with Lawrence. Lawrence has taken 5-6 team members down into the French Quarter each day armed with McD’s hamburgers. God has blessed and they have come home with some awe-inspiring stories of doors blown open to minister in a significant way to the homeless population of New Orleans. Oh, and it doesn’t stop there: they might be taking two individuals back to Dallas with them to connect them into rehab programs at Union Gospel Mission.

I see a group of people who share our passion for the homeless population of New Orleans and seek to provide holistic ministry that meets the physical, emotional and spiritual needs that exist in their lives.

In short, Chase Oaks is literally part of the team that is planting a church in Gentilly. We couldn’t be happier.

This is not ya momma’s church plant. This is post-Katrina New Orleans where you can not only partner through prayer and financial support, but you can come down and join the team. This is a movement of God’s Spirit that extends beyond the borders of New Orleans and into churches all over the US.

We need Chase Oaks. And we need you. We can’t do this alone.


the NOLA Church Plant logo explained

September 26, 2009
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nolalogoSo perhaps you’ve noticed that we unveiled our “logo” for the church plant. I’m really happy about it. It was designed by our friend Samantha Carr. She did a great job.

Just to be clear, this is not the new church logo. In fact, we haven’t even determined the name of the new church. Part of this church planting process is the gathering of a core group of people who will help to start this new church. We want that group to have a hand in the selection of a name and the inspiration of a logo.

So the purpose of this logo is to help us communicate the vision and dreams of this church plant. We need a movement of people, both in New Orleans and around the country, who will rally around us to support, pray and encourage this new church. This logo is one of the tools God can use to help spark that movement.

The logo is inspired by the Crescent City Connection Bridge that spans the Mississippi River in New Orleans. For us, it is a great symbol that represents a number of things…

First of all, we our moving ministry “across the River.” Berean Bible Church is on the Westbank of the Mississippi and the new church plant will be on the Eastbank. For four years, we have sent short-term mission teams over that bridge to help people rebuild [the Westbank didn't flood].

Secondly, we want to be a church that “builds bridges” into our neighborhoods. Frankly, we are sick and tired of church being defined by merely coming together for a Sunday morning worship service. We want church to also be defined by going together into the darkest parts of our world to bring the Kingdom of God to bear upon the needs we find there. It’s time to stop standing around waiting for the needs to come to us. It’s time to cross over the gulfs in our lives that prevent us from going to the other side.

Thirdly, we love our city! This bridge is a symbol that defines our town and we want to embrace and love it!

bridge fisheye


our day with Fitz

September 16, 2009
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Whew. It has been quite a week. The Fellowship Associates Residency program has dunked us into some pretty exciting waters the last couple of days. I have hardly had a chance to catch my breath. Now that things are beginning to settle down [at least for 24 hours before Crystal and I leave for New Orleans on Thursday evening], I’m sitting in a Starbucks reflecting on what I want to share with you about the last couple of days. I could easily fill a couple of posts with stories and reflections.

I think that all five residents would hands down agree that one of our most exciting and inspiring meetings of the whole program so far occurred on Monday when we met with Fitz Hill.

fitz_hillFitz Hill is currently the president of Arkansas Baptist College. ABC is a small  historically black college here in Little Rock. It was founded back in the 1880s by former slaves. It is infused into an old neighborhood that reminds me a lot of the Ninth Ward [pre-Katrina]. It seems that this was the area where the first black homeowners bought their homes back in the day. Over the years, it has become overwhelmed by blight, poverty and crime.

Fitz tackled the job of President in 2006. While he has a doctorate in education, his background is primarily in coaching. Fitz was the Assistant Head Coach at Arkansas and the Head Coach at San Jose State. At the time, he was one of only five African-American division I football coaches in the nation. [One funny tidbit...when he found out I was from NOLA, he asked me where I went to high school to see if he ever recruited there. I said, "No, I'm pretty sure you never recruited at Ben Franklin." lol.]

We sat down with Fitz in the president’s board room for our meeting before grabbing lunch with him in the school cafeteria and ending with a tour of the school campus. Fitz pumped us all up with his vision that was literally being built before our eyes.

When Fitz took over in 2006 [that's three years ago], the school had about 150 students and was on the verge of shutting it’s doors. Today, it has 900 students and about 10 million dollars of ongoing construction projects to make it a state of the art school. They have purchased/acquired probably close to a dozen of the blighted properties in the neighborhood and they are turning them into dorms, offices, small businesses [run by students], GED/tutoring centers, parks, etc. They are literally transforming their entire community.

The craziest part…when we walked into the cafeteria…I literally didn’t see one female student. I almost choked on my lunch when Fitz told us that of their 900 students about 600-700 are males. Steve Snider [one of our FA mentors, who is a lifelong friend of Fitz's] later told us that when Fitz goes through the drive-thru at McDonald’s, he’ll ask the young male at the counter if he has ever thought about college and then precede to “recruit” him. Fitz told us that he travels around the regional area [rural Arkansas, northern Louisiana, etc.] and recruits black males with 15s, 16s on their ACT to go to his school. He pursues them like a college football coach would pursue a blue-chip athlete.

No one does that. No one.

In fact, I’m willing to bet that a majority of college presidents would admit off the record that they would be happy if those guys never set foot on their college campuses.

He challenged us to think long and hard about what role we can play in fighting that battle alongside of him. By we, I mean white, middle-class Christians [four of the five church planting residents are white]. He challenged us to think long and hard about tokenism [half-heartedly pursuing diversity]. He decried multi-culturalism as an inadequate solution that could potentially distract the exact group of people that have the most potential to help the cause. His words reminded me a bit of Steve Biko, the South African thinker/activist during the Apartheid era.

It was [literally] awesome.

So I find myself asking the question…what kind of role can I play? I will be [am already?] a church leader in New Orleans. We seek to become a church that reflects the makeup of our city. We seek to become a church that tackles crime and poverty directly.

The question I must ask myself is, “why?”

Why do I want that? Is it so my white middle-class conscience can go to bed feeling content? Further, “What am I willing to give up?”

Are we willing to hand-off ministry and opportunities to others when necessary? Are we more concerned about getting glory or making an lasting impact?

Are we Kingdom-minded or are we only desiring to build our own kingdom?

I’m very happy to say that Fitz is on our schedule a number of times over the residency program. I can’t wait to hear more.


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Doug Daspit. I love Jesus and New Orleans. I am a church planting resident in Little Rock, and I plan on running the Little Rock Marathon while I'm here. So I'm in the midst of checking two things off of my bucket list: plant a church...run a marathon...

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